A couple of nights ago I was asked to speak to the local Mililani Lion's Club about our community chess club and the Chess in the School's program I run. It turned out to be a friendly crowd. I knew several of the members well, including two REALTORS®, one from my office.
After giving my speech the president of the club told me to pass out my real estate cards to the members so that the group heard him. I thought about it for a few seconds and then thanked him and declined out of respect to the real estate agents in their club, that are two of the best in our community.
A little later he spoke to me on the side and said it would be perfectly OK. I again thanked him, but declined.
I know many agents would have passed out their cards in a heart beat.
This is how I looked at it:
- I am good friends with those two agents, why fish in their pond?
- If someone from the club really wanted to use my services, I am very well known in the community and easy to find.
- I think it would have been a low class thing to do. I was invited there to talk about my education program, not to solicit their members.
- I am also guessing I was invited to speak because of those REALTOR® member friends of mine.
I know how in many sales classes they talk about taking advantage of every opportunity. I think sometimes it is better not to take advantage.
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Randy L. Prothero, REALTOR®, ABR, AHWD, CRS, e-PRO, GRI, SFR
Century 21 Liberty Homes
Randy Prothero is well established as an expert in working with military / VA clients and first time home buyers. His home seller's (listing) campaign is one of the most aggressive marketing programs in the area.
Based out of Mililani, Hawaii. Randy services the island of Oahu (Honolulu County) and the Leeward Regional Chairman of the Honolulu Board of Realtors. To improve overall professionalism in his area Randy also offers classes for real estate agents.
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Randy, I applaud you for your response and your reasoning. It resonates with me.
Randy,
Right call. Very professional. Better chance of getting business by not handing out the cards.
Great work
Tony
Randy,
Nothing wrong with declining. I'm sure some agents would be running back to get a stack of them to give out. Nothing wrong with respecting another. I'm sure if any of them remember you they can ask the president for your number...they might even respect the fact you didn't because you knew others in your industry. I probably would feel uncomfortable too.
I totally agree with you. I think that the really GOOD agents don't NEED to stoop to those sort of tactics. You earned more respect from your fellow REALTORS that night. Our industry is unlike most in that we need to work WITH our competition. As for the sales training materials, I agree with Christopher... it's outdated.
Randy, you did the right thing. I'm sure you gained a lot of respect among the audience and the real estate agents who were there.
Good Post!
Randy,
I think you are spot on. Good job.
Did you get any feedback from your Realtor friends on the topic?
Mark O. - I think we should always show class. I live on an island, people will remember you.
Vicky N. - Thank you
Kathy M. - They have the chess club handouts, which have my number and chess club e-mail. If someone really wanted to reach me they have it already.
Ryan V. - I don't think the top agents in my area would have passed them out either. There are many others who would.
Pam W. - Thank you
Virginia H. - Thank you, I don't think any of their club members would have appreciated me doing anyway.
Laura K. - I grew up in Chicago. I can't handle the crowds and weather.
Tony G. - I agree. I did not go there to push my business on them anyway.
Brian B. - Thank you, I would not have liked it if I were a member there.
Neal B. - I did not just know them, but consider them friends. One is from my office.
Diane B. - I think the AR folks are a classy bunch also. Not one said they would pass out their cards so far.
Erica R. - Those agents work the same community I work. I will be on the other side of them in the future.
Christopher H. - At least the ones that tell you to jump at every opportunity.
Katherine A. - I actually decided against hanging my license with a large company because they train their agents to be extremely aggressive (pushy).
B.B. - That is why you are doing as well as you are in your tough market.
Michael S. - At the time, I was only thinking about showing respect to those other agents in the room.
Jim C. - I am definitely not a stealth agent. I am easily recognized and found in my community. I do not feel the need to push myself on people.
Mike J. - I have not seen them since the other night. I am quite confident they would have done the same thing is the situation was reversed.
Sharon S. - I have been giving similar respect many times from other agents and could not imagine any professional doing otherwise.
Pam W. - Wow, thank you.
Randy ~ I can tell that you are a person who is considerate and is aware of when you're overstepping boundaries. I'm sure that this honesty carries over into your business.
And no, I would NOT have passed out my cards in this situation.
Darleen - I am glad you wouldn't. While writing this I thought of more than a few agents who would have done it. None of them are very successful either.
Randy... I agree with Kathy's comment... gee, 'common sense', imagine that. I agree, I wouldn't pass out my cards either in this situation. Yes, I believe in taking advantage of most situations, but not this one.
Good morning Randy,
Man! You are right on the mark. Rest assured you did take "Advantage" of that opportunity. Showing respect for the other agents is a positive reflection on yourself. Those in attendance know of your Professional involvement. When the time comes for them to have a need for services you provide, many of those present will remember your professionalism and seek you out.
There should be more folks like you!
In short, ur a "Class act!"
Have a great day!
Hal
Jeff - You are in the majority of professionals.
Venancio - Thank you.
Hal - Thank you, I am sure you would have done the same thing.
Rob - I would have felt very uncomfortable doing it.
Sharon - I try to be stand up. I place a lot of value on my good name.
Patricia - That would be really tacky to pass out your cards at another REALTORS® party.
Steve - I always have cards in my pocket, but find it better to give them out selectively. I get cards handed to me all the time. I only hold on to a few of them.
Cameron - Thank you for the kind words.
Tina - Since posting this I have realized that most agents would not have. At the time a short list of names came to my head that would have jumped on the opportunity.
Randy.... it was definitely the way to go...... I'm curious though........ did you get any feedback from the other two realtors in the room ???
have Fun,
Alan
If I were a non-Realtor member of that group and heard you decline to pass out cards, I would think "now, that's a classy guy" and if for some reason I didn't want to work with the Realtors in the group, I'd call you.
I think it says a lot about you as a professional that you chose not to distribute cards because of your respect for the other Realtors.
Alan - I have not seen either since then. I am sure I will be running into both of them in the next week or two.
John - I do know and respect both of the agents in the room.
Hi Randy,
I respect your intuitive judgment. I too would have felt uncomfortable in that position and would have kept my cards in my pocket and kept my integrity with my friends and associates. Getting my name "out there" isn't everything.
You are a true gentleman. What a classy example to the rest of us. I intentionally don't bring cards to church for the same reasons.
Rosalinda - Thank you
Lanre - I think that is because many of the great minds are here on Active Rain.
Carol - I agree completely.
Debbie - Thank you
LaNita - Thank you, it is always best to protect your reputation.
Matthew - I always have business cards in my pocket, but do not bring them out at inappropriate times.
Linda - That is the worst story I have ever heard. That is beyond tacky it is scummy.
Derek - Thank you.
Bart - Thank you
Ruth - I think the majority of agents I know would have done similar. There is a few that came to mind that would have passed out their cards whether invited to or not.
hello Randy,
I can see where you might have felt uncomfortable passing out business cards, but I don't think it would have been inappropriate if at the end of your lecture to let everyone in the crowd know that you could be reached or approached for your phone number. So that you could be of further assistance in the area of chess or perhaps your profession (real estate). No pressure just an opportunity for them to act if they chose to. I think even the other realtors in the room could have respected that after all you were offering up free expertise in the area of chess you're obviously skilled. That's just my take on it.
Jack Jackson Total Home Inspection Services